July 21, 2005
A New Page
There is one person on this planet who heard the phrase "Honey, we have to talk" tonight, and yet was undeservedly shocked and surprised by the discovery that I really did go ahead and sever our finances. I almost feel bad for the guy. Not bad enough to stop my plan of action, but bad enough to wonder if my version of reality is so very, very different.
I'm going to stop nagging him about selling his Mercedes. Sooner or later, he's going to realize: he can't afford it. I'm simply not going to write checks for non-essentials. Today he went to the grocery store and DIDN'T buy steak or lobster.
I've been getting the cold shoulder. "I didn't know you were so awful," is a phrase that has been repeated maybe a tad too frequently. I have restrained the impulse to reply "I didn't know you were a spendthrift used douchebag." Oops, maybe the fact that I'm just a little peeved is showing through? Ya think?
The Foilparents, although 25 years divorce and in general loathing one another, have coordinated so that the Foilkid gets picked up in Canada and has a nice summer vacation on the coast of Maine with her adored and worshipped (God of her idolatry) 13-year old cousin who is a really good sport and plays with her. I so owe my Mom, Dad, and Sister, who have been emailing so much that internet traffic from the U.S. to Europe has been noticeable slower.
Now all I have to do is finish the project (independent contract, not the new job) that is due for my independent work. They want a meeting Monday. No way I am ready. Grrr. Arrrgh. Hey, I wrote papers throughout college in one late night with lots o' caffeine. Why should this be any different. For a political theory class that I had blown off, I got an A- (in the days before grade inflation) about my cat as a political animal. So I can cough something up.
Also, I have a real interview in early August.
I'm going to stop nagging him about selling his Mercedes. Sooner or later, he's going to realize: he can't afford it. I'm simply not going to write checks for non-essentials. Today he went to the grocery store and DIDN'T buy steak or lobster.
I've been getting the cold shoulder. "I didn't know you were so awful," is a phrase that has been repeated maybe a tad too frequently. I have restrained the impulse to reply "I didn't know you were a spendthrift used douchebag." Oops, maybe the fact that I'm just a little peeved is showing through? Ya think?
The Foilparents, although 25 years divorce and in general loathing one another, have coordinated so that the Foilkid gets picked up in Canada and has a nice summer vacation on the coast of Maine with her adored and worshipped (God of her idolatry) 13-year old cousin who is a really good sport and plays with her. I so owe my Mom, Dad, and Sister, who have been emailing so much that internet traffic from the U.S. to Europe has been noticeable slower.
Now all I have to do is finish the project (independent contract, not the new job) that is due for my independent work. They want a meeting Monday. No way I am ready. Grrr. Arrrgh. Hey, I wrote papers throughout college in one late night with lots o' caffeine. Why should this be any different. For a political theory class that I had blown off, I got an A- (in the days before grade inflation) about my cat as a political animal. So I can cough something up.
Also, I have a real interview in early August.
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10 comments:
good luck on that interview foilwoman. and it seems as if foilman is slowly (too slowly?0 coming round to the idea of watching the pennies? or am i wrong yet again?
Well, he certainly doesn't like the idea . . . but he isn't going to have much choice. I certainly will not be giving him much money.
When I am totally over things around here (usually the result of my beloved's psychic absence...and our home begins to fall apart) I become a raving bitch. He can bring me back to my senses by asking me "What happened to my sweet Amieo?".
Sometimes I tell him exactly what happened to her and other times I realize I can be a demanding bitch and that I need to lighten up. I wouldn't want to live with me. I don't know how he manages it! We are both escape artists when our creative work is on the front burner. We surely deserve each other.
It sounds like Mr FW may be slow to take your "hints" but has no choice. Tough love is the hardest.
Good luck with your interview! Don't think you aren't capable of an all nighter in the meantime. I had one a few weeks ago preparing for that big presentation. I toasted dawn with a big cappucino.
Good luck. And don't back down!!
good, nice to stand on the edge and fly, rather than change your mind and turn around....and i do agree, you are a good writer and i enjoy reading your blogs...
Men are such babies.
I would say that I'm glad you stuck to your plan (and I am), but I didn't have any doubts that you wouldn't follow through with it all. You are so much more reasonable than your husband and what you are doing makes complete sense to me.
Stay to the path. But if he can't get it together, then let him go. You have a LIFE. You are a worthwhile person and deserve someone who will be a partner, not an anchor.
No, the saddest thing about this whole experience is how I have been sharing it with total strangers, but not my husband. I know part of him is still there . . . but it's not the complete person. And the remainder is more infantile and selfish, except he's moving himself toward soon-to-be-ex-Mr.-Foilwoman status. I really don't want to be there, but if in order to take care of my children (and me) I must, I will.
well.......how are things going????? you must update us! haha
Innana's coming to collect Foilbaby and me for some much needed R&R and chinese food. Mr. Foilwoman has headed out for the day in his overpriced car. He has calmed down, but is not happy. Whether that will lead him to do anything useful is anyone's guess.
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